Decide on a love affair, both of which already existed for years or just a few days, it is not easy. Although you do not want to hurt her, but if anything it looks like you've passed on can not afford anymore.
So what then? And you also do not want him to hurt her. But whose name is broken up, there's nothing not painful is not it? All you can do is make it less 'civilized'. The trick? Do a few things below:
1. Make preparations
Deciding relationship is certainly not a sudden decision, so take the time to prepare your decision is. Because the better your preparation, the less likely you are affected emotionally. Parties decided, would be sad and will most likely cry.Prepare also terse response and acceptable by him, when he asked the reason.
2. Make it the first to know
Usually before making this decision, you will ask and ask for consideration of the closest friends. But that does not mean they have to notify your spouse. Respect your partner and say your decision, before someone else told him.
3. Face to face is the best
It is easier to say good bye over the phone, email or SMS. But you definitely know how it will impress you coward, especially for your partner. And usually, will not be easy for couples to create friendships or opportunities, if it turns out you change your mind. To avoid karma, for example diputusin boyfriend through Friendster or Facebook, you should respect your partner with the state face to face.
4. Find the best timing
Disconnected, it can take a right. Do not say goodbye when you are both celebrating birthdays, anniversaries or events that should be fun. Best day to say the word break is Friday, because today is the last day of work. So, he could 'eliminate the self' in the Saturday and Sunday to cool off from the world 'outside'.
5. Find the exact location
Another important thing to think about, is to choose the right place to say the word 'broken'. Find a neutral location without an atmosphere that has sentimental value for both of you, as well as a favorable place to avoid the curious stares of others.For example in a restaurant that was not too crowded, so if there is a cry that came out, you will not feel ashamed. The location was somewhat remote and quiet, for example at the mall or park, in the hours which of course was not too crowded.
6. Choose the right words as I said
To avoid the wrong impression, thinking and your decision to say it clearly, honestly and simply. Tell how your pain in making this decision, let him know if you too are suffering and if you did not issue a decision. Without blaming her, let her know what problems you're experiencing and saying that this is probably the best decision for both of you. It is not wrong when you have hope in a relationship, but ties the two hearts will not work when it is no longer tied with love. Avoid lying to avoid feeling hurt, by contrast, say honestly with the sentences in the grammar carefully. Consider carefully your every word, because on other occasions you might see him again.
7. Let him master the situation
When disconnected, the different reactions, from laughter to tears, others accept it with a serious face or the like can not believe it. Give him time to understand the situation, then let him express his feelings (if he wants). Although he understands what you mean, sometimes he hopes you change your mind and gives an opportunity to improve the situation. Answer if you have thought carefully and the decision was unanimous. It would be far better, than let the unpleasant relations continuously. If necessary, let him decide when the conversation is considered complete.
8. A day after word broke
Your ex-boyfriend will try to convince you to come back together over the next few days. If there is any good or that must be completed, finish as soon as possible and avoid returning to a situation like you two are still together.
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